My Favorite Podcast Eps (of This Week)

My Favorite Podcast Eps (of This Week)

The Minimalists, "Direction"

I listen to The Minimalists from time to time, but when I saw that TK Coleman guested on this one, I couldn't devour it fast enough. This episode did not disappoint. It was packed with advice that was very pertinent to me, as I often feel directionless. This episode calmed my fear over feeling directionless by putting it into perspective.  

One piece of advice that I implemented as a result of this episode is Joshua's idea of using "simple triggers" to create a new habit. Like him, I'm also doing pull-ups every time I pass by my pull-up bar.

Here's a short clip in which TK explains why we sometimes can't motivate ourselves to do what we love:

This is an interview Sam Harris conducted with serial entrepreneur Andrew Yang, who is actually running for president in 2020. I've heard a bit about UBI in the past but I never took it seriously; I thought implementing it would immediately lead to disaster. Now I'm not so sure. Yang is proposing a policy in which everyone would get 1k a month. I'm still against the idea on moral grounds, but this episode made me realize that this is not such a ridiculous idea compared to what the government is doing right now in terms of welfare, and it could be pulled off fairly easily. 

It also had me thinking that what AI is doing to the workforce is unlike the industrial revolution and that there won't be a solution other than UBI. Maybe.

This podcast always makes me happy. Just a bunch of singing and silliness. This is a podcast where the two hosts and the guest improvise a whole musical. Yes, it is as crazy as it sounds. This episode had Eugene Cordero, who is one of my favorite improvisers. Not much else to say about this. Just listen to it if ever you feel like smiling. 

Here's a clip after they're done with the main story and do a fun little rap involving working out and the alphabet:

This is a podcast that I just discovered. I listened to all episodes in one day. They were all so interesting to me, covering topics from dating apps to extraterrestrial life. For such short episodes the host, Derek Thompson was able to pack it with so much information. I really liked how he approached the same topics from multiple angles, giving us a nuanced perspective: not too optimistic and not too pessimistic. 

I had to choose one episode but I highly recommend the rest. Listen to "Why Haven't We Found Aliens?" if you want to get your mind blown. 

The Lost Art of Loving Movies

The Lost Art of Loving Movies

Remember when you were a kid and every movie you saw was the most amazing thing ever? Remember that sense of wonder? That feeling that what you saw on the screen was actually real? Ever since, you've been chasing that dragon, haven't you? Sometimes you find a movie that gets you close, but it's not quite the same.

What if I told you that it's possible to get that feeling from every movie? That's right, and all you have to do is take some of that responsibility on yourself rather than put it all on the filmmakers. In a way, that's what you did when you were a child; you were more committed to suspending disbelief and accepting whatever was in front of you as "true."

Regaining A Childlike Mind

I think it's valuable to have a curious, childlike mind when it comes to experiencing art; that's what allows us to find joy and meaning out of it. Without that mindset, we become too rigid and categorical, and we end up getting less and less enjoyment out of life.

It's tragic that this optimistic approach to movie-watching is looked down upon. Whenever someone expresses nothing but awe for a movie, they are met with accusations of "being a fanboy" or "not having a sophisticated taste." I think those common put-downs turn more and more people into cynics, where it's harder to suspend disbelief. Because nobody wants to be thought of as "gullible."

What they don't see is that this "gullibility" is the key to finding that joy that we as moviegoers are always searching for.

Pessimism Isn't Cool

Maybe it's time to stop having pride for being unimpressed by movies. After all, it comes out of a sense of entitlement. All you have to do is sit back and relax as the filmmaker fails to please you.

With that said, I can hear people responding with "but I paid to see the movie, therefore it's their job to please me." I hear you there, but unfortunately, this complaint is not going to get you anywhere. The movie is a done deal and you're not going to get back the time you spent watching it. Unless you have a large audience, your complaint will have no influence on future films, and even then it's still unlikely to make a difference.

Instead, it's better to focus on what you have the most control over, which is how you experience a movie.

To make sure you enjoy your experience, you have to stop being a lazy consumer and take a more proactive approach. It may sound like work, but if you end of finding more joy out of it, by definition it would have been worth it.

It requires creativity to take some of that burden on yourself and fill the gaps that the creators may have missed.

Now that's what should be admired in my opinion: someone who has the courage to look beyond what bothers them in a movie in order to see the aspects that bring them joy.

Don't Expect Others to Suspend Your Disbelief

Sometimes, to enjoy something you need creativity; to view things from a different perspective. For example, I am able to enjoy running because I have the perspective of doing something that's healthy and accomplishing something that's challenging.

If I only focused on the discomfort that running brought, I wouldn't enjoy it. Similarly, if I only focused on the things that reduced my ability to suspend disbelief, I wouldn't enjoy it.

Stop being so easy when it comes to being "taken out of" a movie. If you see bad acting, just tell yourself that's how that character would act. If the CGI is not up to par, ignore it, or just think to yourself "that's how it would really look like in that universe." If you see a convenient coincidence, think it's just that, a convenient coincidence. If you see a common movie trope, just think as if that's the first time you've seen it.

Experiencing art in such a way that you find it fun is an art of its own.

In short, try to bring yourself back to when you were a kid. Try to see the beauty (or horror if you see a horror film) in everything that you see. I know this was easier when you were younger, but that doesn't mean it's impossible now.

I've been doing this for a long time and it has really worked. As a result, I've laughed, cried, and been enthralled by more movies than ever before. After pretty much every movie, I come out feeling amazed.


I know some people get a kick out of bashing movies. This post is not for them; it's for the people who are not aware that it doesn't have to be that way, who might find more joy out of this other way of experiencing art.

But to the people who do enjoy focusing on the flaws in movies, I'd like to tell them to be careful that this pessimistic approach doesn't translate into other things in their lives, such as in exercise and relationships.

Life is too short to not try to find joy in everything you consume.

Edit (8/27/2018) - I just came across this video that was able to articulate some of my grievances on this subject:

Love Shouldn’t Be Flexible

Love Shouldn’t Be Flexible

Most people have a rather flexible definition of love, which renders the word meaningless. For example, they say they love their respectful and honest partner while at the same time loving their disrespectful and abusive parents. Or maybe they say they love their child while treating them like he's less than human by beating them, lying to them, or being emotionally abusive. 

From my perspective, love necessarily includes respect. It involves a commitment to being as honest and understanding as possible. You can have your own definition of love, but whatever it is, I suggest you define it well. And stick to it.

If you love someone who treats you badly and at the same time you love someone who treats you with respect, then I think you have a problem. You either have to define one as a different kind of love or stop saying that you love one of those people.

But why fix this contradiction, you may ask.

For one, it is insulting to the person who treats you one way to say that you love them in the same way that you love a person that treats you the opposite. If that person is smart enough, they will notice that you have a screwed up view of love, and will not give too much weight to your words. If they're even smarter, they would avoid being in a relationship with you in the first place. 

If the person is completely okay with your loose definition of love, then watch out. It may mean that they are looking to take advantage of you since they know that you will still love them anyway.

If your definition of love is loose enough to include disrespect and abuse, you will run the danger of inviting disrespectful and abusive people into your life and repelling good people out of it.  

Alternatively, you may end up inviting your own disrespect and abuse towards the people who you claim to love. 

Open Loops

In Getting Things Done, David Allen introduces the concept of "open loops."

These are commitments or agreements you made with yourself that are stuck in your mind. They're the things that constantly pop into your head and bother you when you haven't done them yet.

I'm the king of open loops.

There are so many things that I tell myself to do, they pile up, and as a result I become stressed and unproductive.

Even if it was just a couple, I'm realizing that those commitments don't have to stay in my mind, that they use up my valuable decision-making energy that could find better use on actual work. Our brains are just not optimized for juggling commitments - that's what note-taking tools are for!

Between the time you woke up today and now, did you think of anything you needed to do that you still haven’t done? Have you had that thought more than once? Why? It’s a waste of time and energy to keep thinking about something that you make no progress on. And it only adds to your anxiety about what you should be doing and aren’t. (pg. 18)

This has been such a big part of my waking life. Thinking about the things I haven't done and being anxious about it has been as normal as breathing. It also has done nothing but paralyze me. 

Some of these open loops for me include reading a certain book, starting a podcast, writing an article on a certain topic, contacting a potential mentor or someone to collaborate with etc. 

Sometimes I start the task but never finish it, leaving that loop forever open and as a result forever a source of stress. 

I'm becoming aware of just how much this mismanagement of commitments has been taxing me. I'm getting exhausted just thinking about it. 

It's such a relief to find out that it doesn't have to be that way.

“Thinking in a concentrated manner to define desired outcomes and requisite next actions is something few people feel they have to do (until they have to). But in truth, it is the most effective means available for making wishes a reality.” (pg 16)

I need clear definitions of the outcomes I desire and the next action required. As David Allen wrote, I need to "transform all the 'stuff' I've  attracted and accumulated into a clear inventory of meaningful actions, projects, and usable information." I need to "gather everything that requires thinking about and then do that thinking" if my organizational efforts are to be successful. 

My plan for the next couple of days is to write down what my commitments are, clarify their meaning and required steps to achieve them, and have them in a system where I can regularly check up on them. Just as David Allen suggested. 

I plan to do this on because I hear it's one of the best apps for notes and tasks.

It's about time I close some damn loops. 

Growing Up Fatherless and the Importance of Introspection

Growing Up Fatherless and the Importance of Introspection

I remember exactly when I became keen on the importance of analyzing my past. It was when I was 18, just beginning my first year of college. I was listening to a podcast while I waited for my next class. The podcast was just a regular conversation between two intellectuals, but they touched on something very relevant to me. That "something" was the psychological effects of growing up in a fatherless home. 

As they described the ramifications, which were based on studies, I felt as if they were describing ME. I was floored. "How could they know me so well?" I thought.

Because of this conversation, I learned that growing up fatherless greatly contributed to my low self-esteem, social anxiety, and depression. I didn't even need to look at the studies - once I made the connection, it made perfect sense. I just needed someone to point it out for me. 

The truth was that my father's absence created a deep feeling of unworthiness. This is a big reason why I was never able to form long-lasting relationships and why I did so much to sabotage my life. 

The most important thing that I learned is that I couldn't possibly expect these issues to disappear without doing a lot of introspection first. Because to permanently fix an issue, you have to understand where it came from in the first place. 

Looking back on this realization, it is really surprising how I didn't know something so simple. Before this, I was not aware of the factors that contributed to my issues. I knew that there were factors, but when it came to articulating them, I was completely lost. I was never given the mental tools to decipher them. 

Come to think of it, I remember consciously thinking that I was strong enough to be unaffected by the fact that my father left me. I was even proud of the fact that I never cried over it. I now realize I was being delusional. Gowing up fatherless did have a huge effect on me and being ignorant of the fact only prevented me from removing (or at least mitigating) that effect. 

How has the importance of looking at my past eluded me for so long? Why didn't my school or family teach me this? If the knowledge of the damaging effects of fatherlessness was kept from me, then what else?

Radical Self-Acceptance

Radical Self-Acceptance

Today I started reading Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach. It crossed my radar because Tim Ferris has strongly recommended it in the past. I gotta say, so far it's looking to be a book that I didn't know I so desperately needed. 

In the beginning, Dr Brach told a story of a woman who was on her deathbed. Before she passed, she was able to reveal this profound and heartbreaking insight to her daughter:

You know, all my life I thought something was wrong with me

For me, this really hit close to home because it's what I believed for so much of my life. It also made me think of how horribly damaging this feeling of unworthiness can be. For example, it can lead to a drug addiction or dependence upon an abusive partner. 

This is not part of the book (at least not that I'm aware of yet) but I think this feeling of unworthiness exists largely because of how we are treated as children. It comes from being told that we are "bad" or "wrong" for expressing ourselves in such a way that an adult doesn't approve of. 

In a more indirect way, it can also come from the belief in original sin.

Evidently, most of us are raised so that our acceptance of ourselves is strongly tethered to how others feel about us. The stronger this connection is made the more fragile we are. And the more fragile we are, the more we suffer. Think of the people who gauge how they feel by the number of "likes" that they get. 

I think a mentally healthy person generally has an opinion of himself which is unmoved by what others think of him. (Of course, this is excluding the close people who he respects). I think this is a path to true happiness. Or at least a path away from suffering. 

I desperately don't want to live the rest of my life feeling unworthy. Luckily I've already made great progress in getting that out of my system. And I have this blogging journey to thank for that. I'm slowly but surely disconnecting what others think of me from what I think of myself. So far, this has done so much for my own happiness.

Anyway, I'm looking forward to learning the insights that Brach's book has to offer.

Featured image by Grant Ritchie on Unsplash

Parents Should Be the Most Charitable Interpreters of Their Own Kids

Children a) are powerless and b) don't yet have all the mental tools to express their feelings and needs effectively. (Though I'm afraid "b" is not exclusive to kids)

Instead of assuming "bad behavior" or "disrespect" or "he's trying to dominate me" whenever children do something they don't like, parents should assume "they don't know better ways to express themselves yet" or "they haven't had enough practice." 

The former interpretation will cause anger and an attempt (often in the form of punishment) to repress the child's present and future attempts at self-expression. The latter will allow the parent to react compassionately and actually teach the child better tools of self-expression. 

I guarantee parents will have better results doing it that way. It will also create mentally healthy adults who DO know how to express themselves effectively.

Children need guidance, not punishments.

My Personal Development Project: Move a Mile a Day

My Personal Development Project: Move a Mile a Day

If you see my Instagram, you would notice that I'm running at least 1 mile every morning.

About a year ago I made the conscious decision to make running a part of my life, the reason being I want to live a long and healthy life. In the beginning, the times when I ran were sporadic. I basically ran only when I felt like it. Sometimes I even took weeks off. 

To become more consistent I joined a running club. This really helped my consistency and endurance. We ran on Mondays and Thursdays, but when it came to the rest of the week, I didn't always run. Again, only when I felt like it.

While that certainly was an improvement, I wasn't running as often as I would have liked to. I think if I truly want to become a lifelong runner, I need to turn running into a subconscious habit. This is why I've decided to take on this personal development project. The challenge is to move at least 1 mile every day for the next 30 days. 

Now, one mile may not seem like much for someone like me, but that's by design.

This isn't about the distance or the speed. Running 1 mile may be easy. Staying consistent is the hard part. It means I have to do it even on my worst days. 

By making it an easier distance, I'm also removing almost every possible excuse. There's almost no reason why I couldn't go through 9 minutes of discomfort every day. If I made the challenge 3 miles I would be more likely to resist even getting out there, and that doesn't help me. Besides, what I've found is that once I'm out there, I'm likely to push myself beyond 1 mile just to make my day's exercise more impactful.

Another reason is that I currently have an injured knee which is in the process of healing. Right now I can't run more than three miles without devolving into a limp. Even though I'm taking on this challenge, I'm also committed on allowing my knee to heal. It may mean that if it starts hurting too much, I will walk that day. Either way, at least one mile will get done. I'll even crawl if I have to.

In order to make this challenge more real, I decided to document it on Instagram. If you want to witness my journey, you can go ahead and follow me there. It'll give me more reason to not give up and you'll get slight doses of inspiration. At least I know I get inspired when I see other people's hustle.  

If I'm successful maybe this will turn into a yearlong challenge, or maybe I'll go crazy and make it lifelong!

Maybe I'll be like this man who ran every day for 45 years:

Featured image by Anders Jildén on Unsplash

Effortlessly Listen to YouTube Videos in Podcast Form

Effortlessly Listen to YouTube Videos in Podcast Form

Have you ever wanted to listen to an awesome conference talk from YouTube but needed the freedom to leave your computer desk? One obvious solution you have is to play the video on your phone, but then you run into the annoyance of carrying around a phone with the screen turned on - not only do you have to be careful to not accidentally touch the screen, but it also drains your battery life. 

Needless to say, this was a constant problem of mine. For some reason, I'm always drawn to audio-centric YouTube videos. If only such videos were in podcast form - life would be much simpler.

Take Be. Busta for example, a YouTube channel about horror stories that doesn't put the visual aspect to much use. This channel would be better served as a podcast, in my opinion. Well, now I don't have to nag the creator into making it available in podcast form because I've found the perfect solution for myself:

That solution is

With this free tool I'm able to turn any YouTube channel or list into a podcast. 

So how does it work?

The way Podsync works is surprisingly simple. All you have to do is copy and paste the page of the YouTube channel of your choice. Make sure it's the page that has all of the uploads, otherwise it wont work. Once you enter the YouTube url, you will get back a different url. Then, in your podcast app, go to where it says "add podcast manually" and paste that url. Click subscribe and that's it! Now every time there's a new upload on the channel, you will recieve it on your podcast app too.

The coolest thing about this tool is the ability to have your own playlist as a podcast. This is done the same way. Once you have that playlist on your podcast app, you can instantly send any video to that app just by adding it to the playlist. Check out the gif below to see how easy it is:

Now, when I stream the "podcast episode" it automatically starts to play the video. In order to play only the audio, I have to click "done" and then the play button. At that point it gives me the playback option of video or audio. Once I click audio, it's just like listening to a podcast. I use a podcast app called Downcast, so I'm not sure how different things are with other apps. I do know that this tool is not supported on Overcast. 

I think this is an awesome little hack. It sure has streamlined my ability to consume content that I care about.

If you find Podsync helpful too, you might want to consider supporting the creator on Patreon

Photo by William Iven on Unsplash


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Why I’m So Interested In Unschooling Even Though I Don’t Have Kids

I love learning about unschooling. I love writing and reading about it. Just in case you didn't know, I'm a single 24-year-old male with currently no desire of having children. So why the heck would I be interested in that? Well, there's a few reasons.

(If you're not familiar, you can read my last post to learn what unschooling means to me)

1) For Self-Knowledge

I think learning about this parenting philosophy is a very effective form of self-therapy because it provides a rational lens through which I can analyze my childhood. 

When I'm reading a book related to peaceful parenting or unschooling, I'm basically reverse engineering myself. Think of it like fixing a poorly built IKEA table. The first thing you would do is look at the instructions to see the correct way of building it. Then you compare that to the way it was actually built. Once you find what was done incorrectly, you can disassemble it and rebuild it properly. 

That's exactly what I'm doing with myself. Peaceful parenting books are the instructions for how to build a mentally strong and happy me. With this information, I know what I need to undo so that I can rebuild myself properly. 

Going through this disassembling and rebuilding process has not been easy. In fact, it can be extremely painful. After all, it can be profoundly jarring to discover just how much I was damaged by my schools and the people who loved me the most.

But, as Nathaniel Branden wrote, "fear and pain should be treated as signals not to close our eyes but to open them wider."

This gets me to the next reason for why I do this.

2) It Allows Me To Properly Mourn

Looking back at my childhood through an analytical lens - thinking and writing about it while simultaneously reading about how I may have been mistreated - has brought about deep sorrow.

Reading books about peaceful parenting is like laying a magnifying glass to your past. It can help you see better but it also has the effect of burning you. For me, it has brought about strong feelings of anger, frustration and sadness. Sometimes it gets to the point where I have to take a break from it.

Ultimately, I think conjuring up these emotions is good, if not necessary. First of all, it's important to understand that those feelings were not created. Rather, they were already in me and I was just bringing them up to the surface. 

One of the many benefits of feeling these emotions is that it helps me restore empathy for myself and what I went through. It helps me understand that it was not me who was broken but rather the world around me. I think this mourning process is necessary in order to love myself once again, or any other person for that matter. 

Another great benefit is that I can use this anguish as fuel to improve myself or the lives of others. 

3) I Want To Inform Parents And Help Children 

As I learn more and more about how to fix myself, I feel the need to pass this information on so that parents could stop making the same mistakes over and over again. I want to prevent as many kids as possible from having to endure the 15,000-hour infliction of schooling. I really don't want for kids to grow up and have to go through the same disassembling and rebuilding process that I'm going through. Or worse, I don't want them to grow up not knowing how they were damaged and then inflict the same damage on their kids!

When it comes to how we treat children, I believe that we have so much to improve on. I believe that much of what we think is an unfortunate but natural part of the human experience could be significantly reduced (or even eradicated) if only schooling and non-peaceful parenting stopped perpetuating it. I don't think life has to be as harsh, boring, and depressing as most schools and parents make it out to be. 

As Alice Miller wrote:

We don't yet know, above all, what the world might be like if children were to grow up without being subjected to humiliation, if parents would respect them and take them seriously as people. 

4) It Could Come In Handy

I think this knowledge can be very important whenever I interact with children, even if they are not my own.

I really admire children and am deeply intrigued by them, but I'm not entirely sure I will ever have any. Why? For starters, I still have a long, long road to healing and I don't know if I'll ever be done with it. If I don't do that then I'll run the danger of inflicting the same trauma that was done to me. 

Then I'd have to find the right partner, someone who is strong enough to raise children with the principles of unschooling. 

One thing that I know for sure is that, whether I ever have kids or not, the seemingly never ending cycle of authoritarianism will stop with me.