What I Learned by Running a Mile Every Day for 100 Days

What I Learned by Running a Mile Every Day for 100 Days

On March 20, I challenged myself to run at least 1 mile a day for 30 days and decided to document it on my Instagram. I started this challenge because I wanted to develop discipline and prove to myself that I could accomplish a long-term goal. After 30 days I didn't want to stop so I told myself I'd do 60, then 100. 

At this point, I don't know when I'll stop, but what I do know is that I've benefited so much already. I feel that I've grown in this period of time at a faster rate than ever before. Well, maybe I grew at a faster rate when I was a toddler. For example, I went from crawling to walking in just one day. Now that's a really big improvement in life if you ask me.

Anyway, here are the cool insights I've gathered by running a mile every day for 100 days straight. 

It Does Get Easier

I know it seems like this should be obvious but let me tell you, it wasn't obvious after the 30th or even the 60th day. There were lots of days when I did the bare minimum and wondered if 1 mile would ever feel like a piece of cake.  Now I can say that it does feel that way more often than not. Don't get me wrong, there are still days when I reeeeaally don't feel like running, but once I get out there that feeling usually goes away and I'm done before I know it.

Without any rest days, I thought I'd be exhausted by now, or that my legs would wear down, but that couldn't be further from the truth. In fact, I was recently able to run 13 miles (my longest run yet) and in two days I was ready to go hard at it again. No soreness whatsoever. 

Of course, this can only happen if I take care of my body, which gets me to my next point. 

It Leads To Other Healthy Habits

I drink water now! Hooray!

Before this challenge, I sometimes went days without drinking any water. Now I can't afford to do that, so it doesn't happen anymore. 

I know that if I eat chips or drink soda, I will soon feel weak and not have the necessary energy to do a long run. I had to go through a few runs where a felt extremely weak before I learned that lesson. 

Because I work on my body constantly, I simply don't feel okay with mistreating it anymore.

Side note: I've found that I get great results if my pre-run meal is just a protein shake. It sits a lot lighter in my stomach and gives me long-lasting energy. I especially like a vanilla protein powder and a banana mixed in with coconut milk. 

You Can Learn To Love Things That Make You Uncomfortable

If you told me I would learn to love running a few months ago, I wouldn't believe you. I just couldn't fathom liking something that brought so much discomfort. In fact, I still can't fully understand it; I just merely feel it. 

I started running almost a year ago but I only did it for health, not for fun. Now, the health part is just a bonus. 

Before I started this challenge, I would dread the days when I've committed myself to run more than the minimum. Like when I ran with my local running club, for example. Now I have no fear of that inevitable pain. And during the runs, I don't constantly wish for the pain to end. 

Because of this challenge I learned to be okay with being uncomfortable. 

It Increases Self-Efficacy

There's no denying it: a daily dose of accomplishment does wonders to your psyche.

Every day I have accomplished a goal I set for myself, thus increasing my confidence to accomplish things. Running every day has changed the way I approach new goals, tasks and challanges. I'm now more of an optimist and risk taker.

A case in point is when I took the initiative to create a website for my local running club even though I had no coding knowledge. I don't think my past self would have done that. 

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My Favorite Podcast Eps (of This Week)

My Favorite Podcast Eps (of This Week)

The Minimalists, "Direction"

I listen to The Minimalists from time to time, but when I saw that TK Coleman guested on this one, I couldn't devour it fast enough. This episode did not disappoint. It was packed with advice that was very pertinent to me, as I often feel directionless. This episode calmed my fear over feeling directionless by putting it into perspective.  

One piece of advice that I implemented as a result of this episode is Joshua's idea of using "simple triggers" to create a new habit. Like him, I'm also doing pull-ups every time I pass by my pull-up bar.

Here's a short clip in which TK explains why we sometimes can't motivate ourselves to do what we love:


This is an interview Sam Harris conducted with serial entrepreneur Andrew Yang, who is actually running for president in 2020. I've heard a bit about UBI in the past but I never took it seriously; I thought implementing it would immediately lead to disaster. Now I'm not so sure. Yang is proposing a policy in which everyone would get 1k a month. I'm still against the idea on moral grounds, but this episode made me realize that this is not such a ridiculous idea compared to what the government is doing right now in terms of welfare, and it could be pulled off fairly easily. 

It also had me thinking that what AI is doing to the workforce is unlike the industrial revolution and that there won't be a solution other than UBI. Maybe.


This podcast always makes me happy. Just a bunch of singing and silliness. This is a podcast where the two hosts and the guest improvise a whole musical. Yes, it is as crazy as it sounds. This episode had Eugene Cordero, who is one of my favorite improvisers. Not much else to say about this. Just listen to it if ever you feel like smiling. 

Here's a clip after they're done with the main story and do a fun little rap involving working out and the alphabet:


This is a podcast that I just discovered. I listened to all episodes in one day. They were all so interesting to me, covering topics from dating apps to extraterrestrial life. For such short episodes the host, Derek Thompson was able to pack it with so much information. I really liked how he approached the same topics from multiple angles, giving us a nuanced perspective: not too optimistic and not too pessimistic. 

I had to choose one episode but I highly recommend the rest. Listen to "Why Haven't We Found Aliens?" if you want to get your mind blown. 

The Lost Art of Loving Movies

The Lost Art of Loving Movies

Remember when you were a kid and every movie you saw was the most amazing thing ever? Remember that sense of wonder? That feeling that what you saw on the screen was actually real? Ever since, you've been chasing that dragon, haven't you? Sometimes you find a movie that gets you close, but it's not quite the same.

What if I told you that it's possible to get that feeling from every movie? That's right, and all you have to do is take some of that responsibility on yourself rather than put it all on the filmmakers. In a way, that's what you did when you were a child; you were more committed to suspending disbelief and accepting whatever was in front of you as "true."

Regaining A Childlike Mind

I think it's valuable to have a curious, childlike mind when it comes to experiencing art; that's what allows us to find joy and meaning out of it. Without that mindset, we become too rigid and categorical, and we end up getting less and less enjoyment out of life.

It's tragic that this optimistic approach to movie-watching is looked down upon. Whenever someone expresses nothing but awe for a movie, they are met with accusations of "being a fanboy" or "not having a sophisticated taste." I think those common put-downs turn more and more people into cynics, where it's harder to suspend disbelief. Because nobody wants to be thought of as "gullible."

What they don't see is that this "gullibility" is the key to finding that joy that we as moviegoers are always searching for.

Pessimism Isn't Cool

Maybe it's time to stop having pride for being unimpressed by movies. After all, it comes out of a sense of entitlement. All you have to do is sit back and relax as the filmmaker fails to please you.

With that said, I can hear people responding with "but I paid to see the movie, therefore it's their job to please me." I hear you there, but unfortunately, this complaint is not going to get you anywhere. The movie is a done deal and you're not going to get back the time you spent watching it. Unless you have a large audience, your complaint will have no influence on future films, and even then it's still unlikely to make a difference.

Instead, it's better to focus on what you have the most control over, which is how you experience a movie.

To make sure you enjoy your experience, you have to stop being a lazy consumer and take a more proactive approach. It may sound like work, but if you end of finding more joy out of it, by definition it would have been worth it.

It requires creativity to take some of that burden on yourself and fill the gaps that the creators may have missed.

Now that's what should be admired in my opinion: someone who has the courage to look beyond what bothers them in a movie in order to see the aspects that bring them joy.

Don't Expect Others to Suspend Your Disbelief

Sometimes, to enjoy something you need creativity; to view things from a different perspective. For example, I am able to enjoy running because I have the perspective of doing something that's healthy and accomplishing something that's challenging.

If I only focused on the discomfort that running brought, I wouldn't enjoy it. Similarly, if I only focused on the things that reduced my ability to suspend disbelief, I wouldn't enjoy it.

Stop being so easy when it comes to being "taken out of" a movie. If you see bad acting, just tell yourself that's how that character would act. If the CGI is not up to par, ignore it, or just think to yourself "that's how it would really look like in that universe." If you see a convenient coincidence, think it's just that, a convenient coincidence. If you see a common movie trope, just think as if that's the first time you've seen it.

Experiencing art in such a way that you find it fun is an art of its own.

In short, try to bring yourself back to when you were a kid. Try to see the beauty (or horror if you see a horror film) in everything that you see. I know this was easier when you were younger, but that doesn't mean it's impossible now.

I've been doing this for a long time and it has really worked. As a result, I've laughed, cried, and been enthralled by more movies than ever before. After pretty much every movie, I come out feeling amazed.

Conclusion

I know some people get a kick out of bashing movies. This post is not for them; it's for the people who are not aware that it doesn't have to be that way, who might find more joy out of this other way of experiencing art.

But to the people who do enjoy focusing on the flaws in movies, I'd like to tell them to be careful that this pessimistic approach doesn't translate into other things in their lives, such as in exercise and relationships.

Life is too short to not try to find joy in everything you consume.


Edit (8/27/2018) - I just came across this video that was able to articulate some of my grievances on this subject:

Love Shouldn’t Be Flexible

Love Shouldn’t Be Flexible

Most people have a rather flexible definition of love, which renders the word meaningless. For example, they say they love their respectful and honest partner while at the same time loving their disrespectful and abusive parents. Or maybe they say they love their child while treating them like he's less than human by beating them, lying to them, or being emotionally abusive. 

From my perspective, love necessarily includes respect. It involves a commitment to being as honest and understanding as possible. You can have your own definition of love, but whatever it is, I suggest you define it well. And stick to it.

If you love someone who treats you badly and at the same time you love someone who treats you with respect, then I think you have a problem. You either have to define one as a different kind of love or stop saying that you love one of those people.

But why fix this contradiction, you may ask.

For one, it is insulting to the person who treats you one way to say that you love them in the same way that you love a person that treats you the opposite. If that person is smart enough, they will notice that you have a screwed up view of love, and will not give too much weight to your words. If they're even smarter, they would avoid being in a relationship with you in the first place. 

If the person is completely okay with your loose definition of love, then watch out. It may mean that they are looking to take advantage of you since they know that you will still love them anyway.

If your definition of love is loose enough to include disrespect and abuse, you will run the danger of inviting disrespectful and abusive people into your life and repelling good people out of it.  

Alternatively, you may end up inviting your own disrespect and abuse towards the people who you claim to love. 

Open Loops

In Getting Things Done, David Allen introduces the concept of "open loops."

These are commitments or agreements you made with yourself that are stuck in your mind. They're the things that constantly pop into your head and bother you when you haven't done them yet.

I'm the king of open loops.

There are so many things that I tell myself to do, they pile up, and as a result I become stressed and unproductive.

Even if it was just a couple, I'm realizing that those commitments don't have to stay in my mind, that they use up my valuable decision-making energy that could find better use on actual work. Our brains are just not optimized for juggling commitments - that's what note-taking tools are for!

Between the time you woke up today and now, did you think of anything you needed to do that you still haven’t done? Have you had that thought more than once? Why? It’s a waste of time and energy to keep thinking about something that you make no progress on. And it only adds to your anxiety about what you should be doing and aren’t. (pg. 18)

This has been such a big part of my waking life. Thinking about the things I haven't done and being anxious about it has been as normal as breathing. It also has done nothing but paralyze me. 

Some of these open loops for me include reading a certain book, starting a podcast, writing an article on a certain topic, contacting a potential mentor or someone to collaborate with etc. 

Sometimes I start the task but never finish it, leaving that loop forever open and as a result forever a source of stress. 

I'm becoming aware of just how much this mismanagement of commitments has been taxing me. I'm getting exhausted just thinking about it. 

It's such a relief to find out that it doesn't have to be that way.

“Thinking in a concentrated manner to define desired outcomes and requisite next actions is something few people feel they have to do (until they have to). But in truth, it is the most effective means available for making wishes a reality.” (pg 16)

I need clear definitions of the outcomes I desire and the next action required. As David Allen wrote, I need to "transform all the 'stuff' I've  attracted and accumulated into a clear inventory of meaningful actions, projects, and usable information." I need to "gather everything that requires thinking about and then do that thinking" if my organizational efforts are to be successful. 

My plan for the next couple of days is to write down what my commitments are, clarify their meaning and required steps to achieve them, and have them in a system where I can regularly check up on them. Just as David Allen suggested. 

I plan to do this on notion.so because I hear it's one of the best apps for notes and tasks.

It's about time I close some damn loops. 

Growing Up Fatherless and the Importance of Introspection

Growing Up Fatherless and the Importance of Introspection

I remember exactly when I became keen on the importance of analyzing my past. It was when I was 18, just beginning my first year of college. I was listening to a podcast while I waited for my next class. The podcast was just a regular conversation between two intellectuals, but they touched on something very relevant to me. That "something" was the psychological effects of growing up in a fatherless home. 

As they described the ramifications, which were based on studies, I felt as if they were describing ME. I was floored. "How could they know me so well?" I thought.

Because of this conversation, I learned that growing up fatherless greatly contributed to my low self-esteem, social anxiety, and depression. I didn't even need to look at the studies - once I made the connection, it made perfect sense. I just needed someone to point it out for me. 

The truth was that my father's absence created a deep feeling of unworthiness. This is a big reason why I was never able to form long-lasting relationships and why I did so much to sabotage my life. 

The most important thing that I learned is that I couldn't possibly expect these issues to disappear without doing a lot of introspection first. Because to permanently fix an issue, you have to understand where it came from in the first place. 

Looking back on this realization, it is really surprising how I didn't know something so simple. Before this, I was not aware of the factors that contributed to my issues. I knew that there were factors, but when it came to articulating them, I was completely lost. I was never given the mental tools to decipher them. 

Come to think of it, I remember consciously thinking that I was strong enough to be unaffected by the fact that my father left me. I was even proud of the fact that I never cried over it. I now realize I was being delusional. Gowing up fatherless did have a huge effect on me and being ignorant of the fact only prevented me from removing (or at least mitigating) that effect. 

How has the importance of looking at my past eluded me for so long? Why didn't my school or family teach me this? If the knowledge of the damaging effects of fatherlessness was kept from me, then what else?

Radical Self-Acceptance

Radical Self-Acceptance

Today I started reading Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach. It crossed my radar because Tim Ferris has strongly recommended it in the past. I gotta say, so far it's looking to be a book that I didn't know I so desperately needed. 

In the beginning, Dr Brach told a story of a woman who was on her deathbed. Before she passed, she was able to reveal this profound and heartbreaking insight to her daughter:

You know, all my life I thought something was wrong with me

For me, this really hit close to home because it's what I believed for so much of my life. It also made me think of how horribly damaging this feeling of unworthiness can be. For example, it can lead to a drug addiction or dependence upon an abusive partner. 

This is not part of the book (at least not that I'm aware of yet) but I think this feeling of unworthiness exists largely because of how we are treated as children. It comes from being told that we are "bad" or "wrong" for expressing ourselves in such a way that an adult doesn't approve of. 

In a more indirect way, it can also come from the belief in original sin.

Evidently, most of us are raised so that our acceptance of ourselves is strongly tethered to how others feel about us. The stronger this connection is made the more fragile we are. And the more fragile we are, the more we suffer. Think of the people who gauge how they feel by the number of "likes" that they get. 

I think a mentally healthy person generally has an opinion of himself which is unmoved by what others think of him. (Of course, this is excluding the close people who he respects). I think this is a path to true happiness. Or at least a path away from suffering. 

I desperately don't want to live the rest of my life feeling unworthy. Luckily I've already made great progress in getting that out of my system. And I have this blogging journey to thank for that. I'm slowly but surely disconnecting what others think of me from what I think of myself. So far, this has done so much for my own happiness.

Anyway, I'm looking forward to learning the insights that Brach's book has to offer.

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Parents Should Be the Most Charitable Interpreters of Their Own Kids

Children a) are powerless and b) don't yet have all the mental tools to express their feelings and needs effectively. (Though I'm afraid "b" is not exclusive to kids)

Instead of assuming "bad behavior" or "disrespect" or "he's trying to dominate me" whenever children do something they don't like, parents should assume "they don't know better ways to express themselves yet" or "they haven't had enough practice." 

The former interpretation will cause anger and an attempt (often in the form of punishment) to repress the child's present and future attempts at self-expression. The latter will allow the parent to react compassionately and actually teach the child better tools of self-expression. 

I guarantee parents will have better results doing it that way. It will also create mentally healthy adults who DO know how to express themselves effectively.

Children need guidance, not punishments.

My Personal Development Project: Move a Mile a Day

My Personal Development Project: Move a Mile a Day

If you see my Instagram, you would notice that I'm running at least 1 mile every morning.

About a year ago I made the conscious decision to make running a part of my life, the reason being I want to live a long and healthy life. In the beginning, the times when I ran were sporadic. I basically ran only when I felt like it. Sometimes I even took weeks off. 

To become more consistent I joined a running club. This really helped my consistency and endurance. We ran on Mondays and Thursdays, but when it came to the rest of the week, I didn't always run. Again, only when I felt like it.

While that certainly was an improvement, I wasn't running as often as I would have liked to. I think if I truly want to become a lifelong runner, I need to turn running into a subconscious habit. This is why I've decided to take on this personal development project. The challenge is to move at least 1 mile every day for the next 30 days. 

Now, one mile may not seem like much for someone like me, but that's by design.

This isn't about the distance or the speed. Running 1 mile may be easy. Staying consistent is the hard part. It means I have to do it even on my worst days. 

By making it an easier distance, I'm also removing almost every possible excuse. There's almost no reason why I couldn't go through 9 minutes of discomfort every day. If I made the challenge 3 miles I would be more likely to resist even getting out there, and that doesn't help me. Besides, what I've found is that once I'm out there, I'm likely to push myself beyond 1 mile just to make my day's exercise more impactful.

Another reason is that I currently have an injured knee which is in the process of healing. Right now I can't run more than three miles without devolving into a limp. Even though I'm taking on this challenge, I'm also committed on allowing my knee to heal. It may mean that if it starts hurting too much, I will walk that day. Either way, at least one mile will get done. I'll even crawl if I have to.

In order to make this challenge more real, I decided to document it on Instagram. If you want to witness my journey, you can go ahead and follow me there. It'll give me more reason to not give up and you'll get slight doses of inspiration. At least I know I get inspired when I see other people's hustle.  

If I'm successful maybe this will turn into a yearlong challenge, or maybe I'll go crazy and make it lifelong!

Maybe I'll be like this man who ran every day for 45 years:


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Effortlessly Listen to YouTube Videos in Podcast Form

Effortlessly Listen to YouTube Videos in Podcast Form

Have you ever wanted to listen to an awesome conference talk from YouTube but needed the freedom to leave your computer desk? One obvious solution you have is to play the video on your phone, but then you run into the annoyance of carrying around a phone with the screen turned on - not only do you have to be careful to not accidentally touch the screen, but it also drains your battery life. 

Needless to say, this was a constant problem of mine. For some reason, I'm always drawn to audio-centric YouTube videos. If only such videos were in podcast form - life would be much simpler.

Take Be. Busta for example, a YouTube channel about horror stories that doesn't put the visual aspect to much use. This channel would be better served as a podcast, in my opinion. Well, now I don't have to nag the creator into making it available in podcast form because I've found the perfect solution for myself:

That solution is podsync.net

With this free tool I'm able to turn any YouTube channel or list into a podcast. 

So how does it work?

The way Podsync works is surprisingly simple. All you have to do is copy and paste the page of the YouTube channel of your choice. Make sure it's the page that has all of the uploads, otherwise it wont work. Once you enter the YouTube url, you will get back a different url. Then, in your podcast app, go to where it says "add podcast manually" and paste that url. Click subscribe and that's it! Now every time there's a new upload on the channel, you will recieve it on your podcast app too.

The coolest thing about this tool is the ability to have your own playlist as a podcast. This is done the same way. Once you have that playlist on your podcast app, you can instantly send any video to that app just by adding it to the playlist. Check out the gif below to see how easy it is:

Now, when I stream the "podcast episode" it automatically starts to play the video. In order to play only the audio, I have to click "done" and then the play button. At that point it gives me the playback option of video or audio. Once I click audio, it's just like listening to a podcast. I use a podcast app called Downcast, so I'm not sure how different things are with other apps. I do know that this tool is not supported on Overcast. 

I think this is an awesome little hack. It sure has streamlined my ability to consume content that I care about.

If you find Podsync helpful too, you might want to consider supporting the creator on Patreon


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